Tuesday, July 14, 2009

Power Of Your Will

The mind is a powerful tool if we can learn to use it properly. So

many people find themselves in situations they think they are stuck in,

we all have a choice, we all have the God given will to change anything

in our lives. I am a professional Life Coach and I believe we all can

change our lives with the power of our mind and our thoughts. You see

I have witnessed first hand this powerful tool in my own family members

years ago which has lead me on the path I am on today. I want to

help people to understand how to use your thoughts to create your own

life.

How do I know? We all have the power to will life or death, happiness

or sorrow, peace or turmoil. The choice is yours as to how you choose

to see things or interpret things. If someone is angry do you then

become defensive? Think about the times you were around someone and

they were laughing and happy, did it not make you happy? You chose to

be happy at that time. Don't take on others feelings and let them

destroy your day. Choose to wake up everyday in a good mood, as Joel

Osteen would say "Something good is going to happen to me today" and

don't think that just because you did not win the lottery that you had

a bad day. Maybe someone smiled at you that normally doesn't give you

the time of day - ah that was something good. Our mind can make or

break us if we let our thoughts take over in a negative way. I also

know that our mind can will things to us.
Let me explain here, I have as I have said witnessed this first hand.

My Grandfather died in 1988, my Mother in 1989 and my Grandmother in

1990. I tell you this as during all this I saw each will to them that

which they desired at the time. Why? In the early part of 1988 my

Mother was diagnosed with Breast Cancer. She ignored a lump that had

grown. At that time my Grandfather began saying "if anyone gets Cancer

it should be me" and that is what he believed. My mother was still

young only 51 with a 14 year old she was still raising. Later that

year my Grandfather had to have surgery ( I don't remember why) and

after the surgery while he was in recovery the Doctor came into the

waiting room. He sat us all down, my Grandmother, Mother and myself

and informed us they found cancer on my Grandfather's liver, a rather

large mass. This is when my Mother told my Grandmother that if anyone

should die of Cancer it should be her (my Mom). My Grandmother made

the decision not to tell him right away since he had just been through

enough for his age. We took him home and he began eating allot, he

felt good and was getting stronger not knowing the Doctor found cancer.

During this time my Mother stated and wished it was her and not him,

she repeated that over and over again. Three weeks after we brought

him home the Oncology nurse showed up at the door, my Grandmother let

her in and she asked my Grandfather why he had not come in so they

could see how he was doing. He told her he was doing great, he had

even put some weight back on. She then informed him he had Cancer of

the Liver and was terminal. He went down hill from there and within 2

months was in a Nursing home. His surgery was in September and he died

December 15Th of 1988.
We had to take mom down to Sun City Arizona in the summer of 1989 as

the Cancer had spread to the brain. They could not operate so they

began radiation therapy. Prior to that she had a double mastectomy.

She never fully recovered from my Grandfather's death and the fact that

she wanted to take his place. They were very close and neither wanted

the other to die of Cancer. August of 1989 we buried my Mother along

side of my Grandfather. From the time each was diagnosed they both

willed to them that they would be the one to have Cancer instead of the

other.

Do I think that they would have gotten Cancer had they not of

asked to have it? Probably, but I do feel they may of been able to

help each other on a more positive note had they of both not focused

mainly on death. You see from the time they were told/diagnosed their

mind told them they were going to die. I don't care if a Doctor or a

friend tells you that you are going to die, if you believe inside

yourself that you don't have a choice and there is no way out -- you

give up that will to survive and live. If you refuse to believe then

you start to look for those that have survived and research how they

did it. When you research you will find out that many of them not only

had some kind of treatment but they told themselves they were not going

to die and that Cancer was not going to own them. They focused the

mind on healing and getting rid of the Cancer, it is sheer will and

determination. Your own will, your own power to change your thoughts,

to see things differently than anyone else.

If we perceive things differently then our outcome will be different.

If you get up every morning and say and think this is going to be a

long day, a bad day, or just wish you did not have to get up then you

will have already set the intention that today is going to be a

horrible day. If you get up and decide to enjoy whatever comes your

way and handle anything thrown at you knowing that you are in charge of

you and your thoughts, well you might just be surprised to find out

that you had a great day.

When faced with negativity or challenges no matter how big or small,

we have the choice to accept defeat by only seeing what could go wrong

or has gone wrong---- or we can say "this may be a challenge but with

every challenge there is always a solution". By changing the way we

think we also change our actions, in other words if you let negativity

and defeat rule you then you take no action BUT if you change the

thought to I know this problem has a solution you now take action.

Taking action is a positive movement as it means you are moving forward

and you will find a solution because you are determined to solve the

issue. You now have the WILL to make it happen and make a change.

It took us years to develop a negative outlook, we took what we heard

or was told and stored it in our subconscious mind so that when faced

with problems we could bring it out and say "See I told you I was not

good enough" or "I knew it would not work for me". This life long

pattern is not going to change overnight, however if you take little

steps with just little things to start soon you will be able to take on

the larger issues in your life. You have to start one step at a time

and build on that. Decide on one little thing you would like to change

and begin working on that for the week. Let's say you want to wake up

in a better mood, before getting out of bed close your eyes and imagine

a wonderful day with a smile on your face, see yourself smiling or

laughing. Now tell yourself this is going to be a great day no matter

what. Just start small and in time you will be able to retrain your

thoughts and stop the negative from entering, you will be able to say

to yourself "STOP, I am not going to__________(whatever) today, I am

not going to let things control me".

Here's my tip for you to help you along the way. Buy any one of

these or a combination of Essential Oil of Geranium, Bergamot, Lemon,

Orange, Mandarin or Grapefruit. All have uplifting qualities however I

have found Mandarin to work exceptionally well, keep this bottle beside

your bed. When you first wake up add 1 drop to the palm of your hand,

rub you palms together then cup over your nose and inhale deeply. Now

continue by following the advise above and imagine yourself as having a

bright and happy day. Put on music while in the shower and sing along,

find things that lift your mood and incorporate them into your daily

life. Don't surround yourself with negative people, places or events

as these will only bring you down.

Remember only God has the power in life or death, His Will Be Done.

Have Fun, Take It Slow and One Step at a Time.
You can do it, You can make a change, you can change your thought and
the way you perceive things.
Just try it for a week and see what happens.

Blessings,
Cindy

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